I have no friends no interest in men, I cant even stand it when strangers try to talk to me. Its too much. This weekend I called for a break, and told him we should spend time apart. Does your boyfriend still care? i felt unhappy with it.. i wanted to give up but i feel like im the only one who can understand him and love him uncondtionally. Surprising me with letters, giving me flowers and just little things like opening the door for me. I dont know what to do and need some advice. HE ALWAYS FORGETS. It can certainly take a negative toll on your relationship (and your self-esteem) if you constantly have to repeat yourself, you cant help but feel your S.O. Nothing cleaned up, ingredients still on the counter, and not one thing made for me to eat.. and even better, after letting me in the door, not a how was work. I told him 3 times that this has bothered me and he has made no effort to change this. I just requested patience. Its okay to build from scratch instead of being in an emotionally abusive relationship and constantly being destroyed in to nothing. Im about to turn 20 in a few months and hes 25, Im afraid i might be a little too naive or wayyy too vulnerable for someone like him. To me it seems like your boyfriend is causing your anxiety and making you feel down which is not okay at all. He dismisses your emotions. Texting in his way showed me just how little hed been giving me and Id been accepting it. Im going through the same thing now. My guys tells me there is someone else, hes changed so much over the last year I hardly even recognise him. Theres also a clear risk that hell, again, show you exactly how much he cares about you by not fighting for you. No boyfriend in the world can fill the emptiness that only God can fill. I feel like i am constantly having to fight for us to have a better relationship. I ask my boyfriend to do simple things like make me a coffee once in while, ask if i got home safe, tell me im beautiful, or just ask me on a date. MY BOYFRIEND AN I HAVE 2 KIDS TOGETHER AND WE BOTH WORK. Day after, he went for work in other city and stayed there for 3months. I dont want to lose him,i made a mistake and have learnt to trust him now! I miss him terribly. He is in law school, I am getting my masters, and we also partake in a long distance relationship. I thought hed at least try to make a plan. Im not asking for much, just some normal effort. He used to come over to my place so often no matter what day what time. He might end up resenting you, instead. He also spends all is money on one of purchases like 600 pound shoes and then moans to borrow money while I foot the bill for car expenses etc.I feel like the only time he cuddles me is when he wants sex and if I have an excuse he immediately pulls away. He felt his place was his and he wanted to keep his place sacred and clean! So, literally, he gives me a quick peck before he goes to work and at least TELLS me he loves me. Its frustrating because since he wont do anything around the house, I have to pick up the extra work because I dont want our house to look or smell like a garbage can. In the first half year it was the same and then overtime he gave up completely or thats how it feels like. He tells me I could come over to his familys Thanksgiving, but only after everyone has left and only for leftovers (aka forgo my Thanksgiving dinner with my family and eat reheated sides). I asked about the plan we made and he didnt answer he started to be mean to me and not talk and then he hung up on me after saying he wasnt gonna go to hoco with me or prom and that he didnt love me. I was heart broken. Then, at least FaceTime? Being that were sophomore and junior now, we dont have any classes together. First I asked him if we could level up our relationship through meeting his and my family. And making me look like a beast, I spoke with that lady and she felt bad for the text she send me, she even offered to take me out, I agreed to that, she was telling me how his boyfriend has been suspecting the two of them, how his boyfriend has been mistreating Herr and my guy has been always their for her, I believed everything she was telling me, I was still angry with my guy because he lied, one Sunday I received a call from my boyfriends friend, he told me that my guy has been having an affair with his girlfriend from January, he even showed me some photos, my guy and that lady were kissing, even he bought flowers for her on valentines day, I couldnt believe that the guy Ive known for 2yrs can do that to me, after the news I went to my guys house at 9pm, guess what? He will see what he lost. Its been almost 2 yrs with him and I hot him gifts ( handmade thoughtful gift and a tshirt) he hot me nothing for my bday. It may be time to reassess your relationship. Cant believe how common my situation is right now. Any advice please? Start taking care of Yourself. It is always me who looks up special events to go to like Gamevention (cause he likes video games), new Indian restaurants (cause he likes spicy food), or initiates going for a walk. Weve been together for over a year but known each other for 8 and its a first serious relationship for both of us. The crazy thing about all this is that even tho Im the one craving attention and love and effort in the relationship, he actually relies on me a lot. He asked if I wanted help learning and I said a big yes. He said he wanted to have a deeper talk about expectations and his four years old son before we can be official. Like, Ive planned 90% of our dates. I said ok. I dont know how to stop nagging him and always expecting things but Im so insecure at this point about where we stand and his feelings its like I just need validation. Im a modest gal. I felt confident with my decision to part. Also expected to cook, clean, do the laundry, take care of our pet. He was not able to go back to school again because his government decided that no one will graduate this year. I tried to talk to him about it multiple times, every time he would apologize and say he would be better, but he always fell back in the same routine. HE DOESNT TAKE THE TRASH OUT ANYMORE. But he has never considered making me happy for once. There is someone else for you. Its selfish to me but maybe it really isnt. My BF is of course devastated and angry. He is so passive. Its been an extremely rocky relationship but has the tendency to resolve itself. He has some property on the other side of town, he asked me to move in with him to establish a foundation. Back as a baby, he said the vet said not to let her sleep or have that on for a while because she is a labradoodle and it makes their hair very knotty and bad for their skin. My boyfriend is a foreigner and a Muslim while I am a Catholic Christian. After that he chatted me that hes sorry he didnt give the money and I said im not accepting money for sex. Its 90 degrees out so I thought Id stay cool and look a little less like I live in a dumpster. Yet around the holidays, he has completely dropped off the radar and is barely giving me more than a one word text response back. He always gives excuses such as I just ate and no matter what I still put my pride aside and do it for him. I cant tell you what to do, I can tell you what it feels like to stay and feel the harshness of hurtful words for years at a time. Im pretty sure hell tell me I cant really go because its just an alumni weekend. I cant say no because if I do I feel like Im being lazy and letting them down, plus they get mad at me for saying no. Even seemingly harmless criticism and patronizing comments, too, can take a toll. Im lucky if I get a phone call from him. Thank you for taking the time to type the words in your comment. Recently,he told me hell be busy with work and i tried to understand our situation right now..But he i feel like he doesnt seems to give much effort for this relationship to get closer. If anything is like now hes got this new job hes checked out and wants a new life. In the first year of the relationship it was really good and he made an effort to be with me, and I felt like he really loved me. We no longer sleep in the same bed, he has chosen to sleep on the couch. I get it Im not a good gamer but I like the company. Although weve talked about it many times and although I told him I wanted to go out once a month, he doesnt initiate. I hate to say it maybe he did something he wasnt so suppose to and felt guilty leading him to end things. It was all too perfect in the beginning and I was fearful. Since me and my son have been here, which is almost a year, my boyfriend has initiated sex ONE TIME, taken me out somewhere other than the GROCERY STORE, ZERO TIMES, wether its out to dinner, out for drinks, or ANYTHING. I tried talking to him and he said I was being to needy. I DO ALL THE LAUNDRY, VACCUMING , DISHES ,MOPPING, ALL THE CLEANING. Idk what to do I dont want to lose him but i cant tell if he loves me or not he says he rlly does but doesnt act like it. ? You have to be willing to become selfless. you are still young and you should take this time to learn about yourself and then find the right man that will want a future with you. i refused saying that I am already busy, in which I am and I told him quit rankly i need you to plan before hand and so we can both be free. I dont know what he wants from me. You want him to want you. His temper and his childish attitude and how he has to be right all the time. We both have a lot of jealousy issues and insecurities. Write in your journal or diary, or share in the comments section below. But he still makes no effort in even recognizing relationship milestones like anniversaries, but he has done romantic things for the girl he chased for 6 years. As well BALANCE is a VERY hard thing for men I have learned. On the other hand, if your man is more independent and hes not used But even after reminding him of that, nothing happen. I am tired of him not making a plan and his sudden switch in personalities. Men go through depression, hurt and sorrow just like us women do. He is properly dressed and looks fine, just too add. We were living together but decided to try living apart since we jumped into the relationship. Since a month or so these fights are causing me to have panic attacks and he doesnt care when tell him how much it affects me. I started breaking down on zoom and crying. I am very confused and angry at myself because I know he wasnt like that in his previous relationship endeavors. Me and my boyfriend have been together for more than a year now and I feel like lately he doesnt make any effort to spend time with me. I have asked him to write more often if we do not physically meet so often, but I dont want to keep pushing him for more attention. Some of the things that he was doing I perceived them differently than how he intended them. Ive been in same situation. But when it comes to his business he always asks for my help and Im always putting things aside to help him. Maybe he doesnt want to look like a fool. I met this guy 6months ago we were happy and everything was going well, until last week Friday.He went out with his friends and he came back in the morning. It breaks my heart not talking to him and hearing about his day but I know this was for the best. he just sits there and acts like he hasnt heart a word ive said. He foes sweet thoughtfulthings when I come over yo see him. My name is leonna and I have been seeing this amazing guy for 3 months now. Try not to get upset, irritated, or emotional. Its not too much to ask- its very basic. Im still not brave enough to leave him though he was my first long term and Ive had the best time of my life with him. Do not sound attacking or desperate. Its like he wants to cause as much damage as he can verbally to win and I dont get it. When a partner is heavily distracted by other commitments, tasks, stress, and anxiety, they may find it too challenging to redirect their attentionand they may even be so wrapped up that your needs don't even register. He loves the gym and usually chooses that over me, hanging out with his friends etc but then when we do actually spend time together hes all over me and appreciates me so much and makes me feel amazing. Now, what do I *do*? Again, tons of excuses. But hes a good guy with a good job so thought I would see if I could deal with it. I love him and i plan on marrying him but i dont know how to fix the lack of effort without fighting like we always do when i ask him to put in more effort. So that could also be taking up his time and mind. I dont know what to do. And when we actually spent time together we always just went for a walk couple times a week or we met to have sex, we never did anything else. Its like you are not even there. what is the project you have to work on together . Then we usually get in an argument and sometimes we break off for about a week. Your email address will not be published. Find yourself then get to understand your mate emotionally and mentally. We are the prize, we have to make them earn us. Letting Go of Someone You Loveis filled with comforting, practical ways to heal your heart. Im so upset. i simply dont understand this. He would always build my hopes up before we call and end up forgetting or when he calls, hes either that hes going to bed or do so while playing his games throughout the call and not pay attention even when i have something to share which hurt my feelings. Perhaps you're the one whos losing interest: If you're constantly distracted, always on the phone, and aren't invested in your S.O. I dont know what to do. My boyfriend of three years got me a card. Its sad when other give you the compliments that you are looking from in one person. I know that probably sounds silly but his replies are shorter and he doesnt joke around with me like he used to do. Ive tried to initiate intimacy and have been rejected because hes tired. 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